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Which one you regret most?

These days, things happen not as expected. My plan was crashed to zero point. I need to figure out what I need to do after this. A long talk with my friend yesterday made me think hard about what I want, what I pursue, and expectation from people around us, in this case my parents. He said that we should try to balance of what we want and what they want. As long as they still alive, we need to accomodate their expectations as well.

Those words stabbed in my heart. Looking back, have I tried to accomodate their expectations, or merely pursuing what I want? What if their expectations oppose mine? Should I follow them because they are my parents? Should I not consider them because it's my own life?

I am puzzled, and need sometime to reflect it, yet I have no idea to do. This morning, I chat with another best friend, to whom I usually share dreams and problems. And she gave me a very good suggestion. Although I haven't yet found the answer, I think her approach helps a lot.

She said, "Consider which one you will regret most later, then take that option". A simple sentence, yet difficult to answer. I want to share it with you guys, hopefully, if you have problems, whatever it is, it help you as well as it helps me.

Comments

Anonymous said…
You will know the answer if you are a parent.
Anonymous said…
Talk to ur parents what u want, and try to understand them either...
the way out will be in front of u when all understanding each others.....
Anonymous said…
susah memang mengkombinasikan antara keinginan orang tua dgn keinginan diri sendiri :)
Anonymous said…
Hmm.. quarter life crisis... Saat ambisi pribadi mentok dengan mimpi orangtua :D sok tau banget yah gue mit..

Just follow your heart dear... Mudah-mudahan jadi lebih enteng :)

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